CW: This might be a hard one for some of you as there are mentions of suicide. Feel free to stop here if you need to.
“Days are not the only place where we live, Nikolai said.
Time is not the only place where we live, I said.
Days are. I don’t have to have days to live now.
And yet I have to live in days, I said.
I’m sorry, he said.
Days: the easiest possession, requiring only automatic participation. The days he had refused would come, one at a time. Neither my allies nor my enemies, they would wait, every daybreak, with their boundless patience and indifference, seeing if they could turn me into a friend or an enemy to myself.
Never apologize, I said, for what you have let go.”
Where Reasons End is a love letter from a mother to her dead son. She lived. He died. Same illness, different outcomes. Continue reading Where Reasons End: A Meditation
Each month, I save up my free NYT articles to be utilized solely within the modern love column. When the freebies fail to satiate me, as is often the case, I move on to their podcast which I religiously listen to on my way to school every Thursday morning. Recently, they had a college contest in which college students were asked to submit an essay on what modern love looks like for them. To no one’s surprise, I did not participate. Be that as it may, I did think about the prompt and in my own way, attempted to provide a small answer to their very big question.
It’s everything but L-O-V-E
The dreaded four letter word
It’s when the sweetest thing a guy says to you on your first date is
“Can I kiss you?”
And yet the question you’ve never been asked before
Continue reading The Unsent Letter to the Modern Love Column of The New York Times
I have been living in the metropole aka London for a couple of months now
I am studying in an institution that a couple of decades ago trained colonial administrators
But it is 2019 and formal colonialism ended, no? Continue reading Reflections from the Metropole
Hey lovelies! Hope you are having a wonderful weekend. Easter is definitely the time to tap into your spirituality, spend time with the people you care about and just hit the refresh button. I’ve been watching a lot of films and thought I’d share some films you might enjoy for that downtime this weekend. Continue reading Four Afrocentric Films to Enjoy this Easter Holiday
Its been over a month since allegations about a Nairobi-based pastor , Ken Gomeri, as a sexual predator came out. It’s also been over a month since Khaligraph Jones was accused of domestic violence. In both of these cases, there has been a uniform response: silence. In other social media news, cheating is apparently a justification for physical violence. But all this is part of the so-called ‘social suicide’ where gendered violence is eloquently explained as collateral damage of a greater social rot. Dear reader, when will women stop being collateral damage? After all, it’s 2019! Continue reading “African woman, you are on your own”: thoughts on twitter intellectualism, feminism and the capitalism that binds